At some point, someone convinced you that wanting reciprocity in relationships means you're demanding, high-maintenance, or not "easy to love." Maybe they didn't use those exact words. Maybe they just sighed when you brought things up. Maybe they said "why do you have
You've probably been told you have a pattern. Maybe a therapist said it. Maybe a coach implied it. Maybe someone you trusted reflected it back to you with enough confidence that you started to believe them. That you keep ending up in the same situations. That you keep
There's a specific accusation that shows up in therapeutic and coaching containers when an Fe user is working with an Fi/Te practitioner. It usually sounds something like: you said X last week and now you're saying Y. Which one is true? Or: I'm
Overthinking is one of the most common things NFJ clients bring into a first session. They describe it as a problem with their mind — the thoughts won't stop, they circle back to the same material, they can't turn it off, they analyze everything too much. And
At some point, someone probably used this word about you. Maybe directly. Maybe embedded in a question — "do you think you might be struggling with codependency?" — delivered with the particular gentle certainty of someone who believes they're being helpful. Maybe you found it yourself, reading late